Saturday, April 15, 2006

Four questions

My friend Amy sent me these questions a long time ago. Okay, here goes...

1. If you could live anywhere in the world, where would it be? And
what's stopping you?

I want to live so many places--Italy, Paris, the Northwest, Vermont, Virginia, New Mexico, Canada, Iceland, Scotland, the English countryside. The trouble is, I can't decide where! Also stopping me is we have an 11-year-old son and my husband is a musician and has lots of gigs and students here in Southern Cal., which took years to build to the point that they're at. So I'm--uh--stuck. Ew...I hate how that sounds: stuck.

2. If you could get free plastic surgery and change anything about
your appearance, what would it be? What changes do you think it would
make that would really make that much of a difference in your life?

I've always been kind of down on plastic surgery, as anyone who knows me knows. I doubt I'd get it, even if it were free. But if I could change anything without going under the knife, it would be my face. I'd have it tightened just a bit so I wouldn't look so serious all the time.

3. If you could change anything that happened in your past, what
would it be? And if it makes you who you are today, would you still
want to?

In my mother's later years and when she was becoming ill, I wasn't there enough for her. She lived on the East Coast, I'm on the west and had a baby, then a young son and just wasn't as involved as I now wish I had been. I'm not sure how it makes me who I am now, except for a little more sad than I used to be, and I wouldn't mind some of that sadness going away. A day doesn't go by that I don't think about it.

4. If you found out that you were going to die tomorrow, what would
you do before shuffling off? And why haven't you done it already?

I would burn my old journals and a bunch of old pictures that my son doesn't have to see. I haven't done it already because I have a hard time letting go (a writer, burning journals and pictures??) and because there are other things during the day I'd rather do and have to do.

Copy the questions and answer them, too....

4 comments:

amy said...

Ha, I guess I'm a real writer. I said I would burn papers and journals, too. How very Eugene O'Neill of us.

Barbara DeMarco-Barrett said...

Amy, Would you post the link to yours?
Barbara

amy said...

I'm not sure the way to link. I posted it at www.xanga.com/sfamylou on Feb. 28, 2006, and I stole it from another blogger. Here were my responses:

1. New York City. Don't want to live there with little kids and my income. 2. No way. It's not a money issue; it's a health issue. I have an autoimmune disease or I'd have the biggest boobs you've ever seen. I'm afraid they make you sick, though. Lupus anyone? 3. I'd take my daughter to see my grandmother. I kept meaning to, and we were getting ready to, but then she died. She used to call and ask me to bring her. I will never think of that without feeling bad. 4. I'd burn papers and erase files I don't want my husband and kids to see. Like any writer would, I imagine.

Jordan said...

The Industrial Revolution put an end to the farm and the close knit family unit. People scattered from the farm to the cities for "opportunities".

Old age is a modern day inconvenience and you are not alone in feeling a touch of guilt in not being physically available to a sick family member. It's the way it is.